When the Haters Hate

Here I am, writing another “promised” blog post. I need to take the clue and admit that I need pressure to get anything done! While working under pressure and deadline has always been the way I roll, this was a bit different. This time, I set the deadline, and I promised the blog post.

You see, I have this meme, or inspirational quote, or something just rolling in my head, and I want to share it for everyone facing challenges in starting their business. It hasn’t come out because I haven’t found the perfect medium. But, since I’m slowly learning that I can’t sit around and wait for perfect (if I do that nothing will happen), I figured I need to challenge myself to get this out. So here goes. . .

Let’s talk about “those people.” You know, the ones that talk behind your back, criticize your business, make a point of sharing their opinion about what you’re doing. Yeah, those people: “THE HATERS.”

I venture to guess most of you are able to roll your eyes at “those people” most of the time. But, secretly, or maybe openly, their actions bug you. It gets under your skin that other people are talking negatively about you or your business. You feel the tension when you walk in the room and they won’t make eye contact with you, or you hear through the grapevine what they’ve said.

I’m there with you. I’ve been there (still am). I waiver between flaunting some choice words to no-one particular, (yet exactly pointed) and wanting to crumble saying “why can’t we all get along?” I also walk that line of trying not to interpret too much, trying not to get frustrated at micro-aggressions and seemingly blatant undermining.

I wish it didn’t have to be this way. But the business world is this way. So, what are you going to do about it?

First, I want you to listen to something a wise person shared with me. When I mentioned some of the micro-aggressions I faced while starting up she looked at me and said “Wow, you must really be powerful.”

I didn’t know if she was off her rockers sarcastic looking for a black eye, or if she was really on to something. Luckily, I took a deep breath and let her finish talking before I made any rash decisions.

As she said expounded, she shared the perspective I want to share with you today:

The people talking behind your back believe in you, probably more than you believe in yourself. You have enough power, show enough potential that they are interested and threatened in some way. They are giving you power. Take that power. Harness it. Ride it, and use it to boost yourself. At the very least, believe in yourself as much as they believe in you.

This is what gets me through- I owe it to myself (and my business) to believe in myself as much as other people do. Seriously! And, so do you!

What does that mean- to believe in yourself? It means check yourself, check your goals and plans and make sure they live up to your standards. Make sure you are living with integrity and ethics. Make sure you are doing your best. As you move forward support other business folks as you would want to be supported. You don’t have to like them, but you can certainly offer them respect. After all, we’re all trying to do the same thing- build a business based on our passions.

So, get out there, brush it off, and let yourself harness the amount of power that others are giving you!

Let the hater’s hate!

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